scriptures for overcoming compulsive behavior

Prayer for Deliverance:

Dear Lord, I confess that I have been turning my life over to things that do not satisfy; to things that have built a wall around my heart and have hurt my relationship with You. I repent of those things now and give them over to you. Today, I lay down my compulsive behaviors at the foot of the cross. Please take them from me and help me to rely on You for the strength, comfort and assurance I need each moment of every day. Help me to walk according to the Word of God by the power of the Holy Spirit that I may be victorious in every way. In the precious Name of Jesus, AMEN

Scriptures for Overcoming Compulsive Behaviors:

I don’t understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do the very thing I hate. I know perfectly well that what I am doing is wrong, and my bad conscience shows that I agree that the law is good. But I can’t help myself, because it is sin inside me that makes me do these evil things. Romans 7:15-17

Trusting oneself is foolish, but those who walk in wisdom are safe. Proverbs 28:26

The LORD hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those who are crushed in spirit. Psalms 34:17-18

And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from his love. Death can't, and life can't. The angels can't, and the demons can't. Our fears for today, our worries about tomorrow, and even the powers of hell can't keep God's love away. Whether we are high above the sky or in the deepest ocean, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8:38–39

But this precious treasure - this light and power that now shines within us - is held in a perishable container, that is, in our weak bodies. Everyone can see that the glorious power within must be from God and is not our own. We are pressed on every side by troubles, but not crushed and broken. We are perplexed because we don't know why things happen as they do, but we don't give up and quit. 2 Corinthians 4:7-8

Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but be a new and different person with a fresh newness in all you do and think. Then you will learn from your own experience how his ways will really satisfy you. Romans 12:2

Those who live in the shelter of the Most High will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty. Psalm 91:1

So don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. I will help you. I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.

Isaiah 41:10

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about what happens to you.

1 Peter 5:7

It is not that we think we can do anything of lasting value by ourselves. Our only power and success come from God. He is the one who has enabled us to represent his new covenant. This is a covenant, not of written laws, but of the Spirit. The old way ends in death; in the new way, the Holy Spirit gives life. 2 Corinthians 3:5-6

For God is working in you, giving you the desire to obey him and the power to do what pleases him. Philippians 2:13

Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, that you and your descendants might live! Deuteronomy 30:19

I waited patiently for the LORD to help me, and he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the pit of despair, out of the mud and the mire. He set my feet on solid ground and steadied me as I walked along. Psalms 40:1-2

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God – this is your spiritual act of worship.

Romans 12:1

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths. Proverbs 3: 5-6

The name of the LORD is a strong fortress; the godly run to him and are safe. Proverbs 18: 10

But those who wait on the LORD will find new strength. They will fly high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

O LORD, you alone can heal me; you alone can save. My praises are for you alone! Jeremiah 17:14

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke fits perfectly, and the burden I give you is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

I myself no longer live, but Christ lives in me. So I live my life in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Galatians 2:20

Declaration of Freedom:

I, _____________________________________________________________ , declare
by faith that by the power of the Blood of Jesus Christ, The Word of God, and His Holy Spirit, I have been forgiven and strengthened and can now walk in freedom.

Signed_________________________________________ Date ________________

I will be accountable to ________________________________ in this area.

(Note: An accountability partner MUST be of the same gender.)

Breaking the Chains – Compulsive Behaviors

Compulsive Behaviors Are:

§ Driven behaviors which are often influenced by subconscious desires and motives.

§ Strong, uncontrollable, hard to tame actions and behaviors which have a predictable pattern.

§ Behaviors that unsuccessfully use something outside ourselves to fix or compensate for what is wrong inside our self – our attitudes or feelings.

§ Often habits learned over one's lifetime which are difficult to break.

What Are Some Typical Compulsive Behaviors?

Some of the more popular compulsive behaviors involve:

§ alcohol	§ smoking	§ gambling
§ drugs	§ the Internet	§ computer gaming
§ eating disorders	§ shopping	§ hoarding
§ anger	§ co-dependency	§ inappropriate relationships
§ extra-marital sex	§ pornography	§ self injury

We become at risk for developing compulsive behaviors when the behavior in question is used to manage our feelings. These behaviors are often utilized to "self-medicate" against feelings of anger, disappointment, boredom, stress, anxiety, loneliness or sadness. These mood altering coping strategies not only keep us from developing healthier and more adaptive ways of managing our emotions, they also interfere with our spiritual growth and our relationship with the Lord.

Do you have a problem with a compulsive behavior? Many of our activities can and do become routine, but that doesn't necessarily make them a problem. The following are danger signs known as the Three Cs:

§ Cravings or compulsive urges. People with a problem behavior organize their lives around their compulsive activity.

§ Control problems. It's not how often or how long someone engages in the activity, it's the inability to stop or curtail it that signals trouble. Ask yourself, "Do I control it or does it control me?"

§ Continued performance despite persistent problems caused by the activity. When someone is willing to repeatedly suffer significant harm to maintain that behavior, then it's a problem.

Problem behaviors usually start out as voluntary but become automatic. At first, it may seem as if these experiences are positive, but as frequency and intensity increase, the short-term payoff fades and damaging consequences occur. The process may grow gradually without one realizing it.

Like alcohol and drug abusers, people with compulsive behaviors often deny problems. They lie about their behavior, make excuses ("I only do it when I'm really stressed") or rationalizations ("It's better to be hooked on shopping than on drugs"), and blame others for resulting problems.

The important thing to remember is that the Lord wants us to walk in freedom – not bound by compulsive behaviors or any other thing that would interfere with our relationship with Him. And experience tells us that just wanting to change or do better is not enough. When we get ready for God to remove our shortcomings, we may still want to control how He does it. We are so used to calling the shots that we’ll ask for God’s help as long as he does it on our terms. We may be tempted to demand that the changes happen on our timetable or in the order we feel ready to give them up.

But God doesn’t work that way. God told the prophet Jeremiah to go to the potter’s shop to learn a lesson. Jeremiah 18:3-6 says, “So I did as he told me and found the potter working at his wheel. But the jar he was making did not turn out as he had hoped, so the potter squashed the jar into a lump of clay and started again. Then the LORD gave me this message: “… can I not do to you as this potter has done to his clay? As the clay is in the potter’s hand, so are you in my hand.”

How to Find Freedom:

1. Identify areas of compulsive behavior in your life.
God says in Jeremiah 6:14, “You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there!”

2. Admit or “own” the problems.

We have to admit that we have been defeated by an internal force that has brought nothing but pain and degradation to our lives; then, we have to admit we need help in dealing with that force.

3. Ask for and accept the Lord’s help in dealing with the compulsive behavior.

We must completely accept the fact that we cannot remove our own shortcomings, and we must become willing for God to remove them for us. To be entirely ready is to reach a spiritual state where we are not just aware of our defects; not just tired of them; not just confident that the Lord will remove what should go – but all these things together.

4. Join with others for support and accountability.

Join a small group for support and form an accountability relationship with someone of the same gender.

part three deliverance from resentments and bitterness

Prayer for Deliverance:

Dear Lord, I acknowledge that I have been holding on to resentments and bitterness against others. I confess this as sin and ask you to forgive me. I repent of those feelings now and give them over to you. I choose to forgive those who have hurt me in the past. Today, I lay down my bitterness and resentments at the foot of the cross. Please take them from me and help me to rely on You for the strength, comfort, peace, and assurance I need each moment of every day. Help me to walk according to the Word of God by the power of the Holy Spirit that I may be victorious in every way. In the precious Name of Jesus, AMEN

Scriptures for Overcoming Bitterness and Resentment:

Make every effort to live in peace with all men and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many Hebrews 12:14,15

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you Ephesians 4:31,32

When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly I Peter 2:23

Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing...”

Luke 23:34

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:14-21

For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Matthew 6:14,15

I myself no longer live, but Christ lives in me. So I live my life in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. Galatians 2:20

When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, your lives will produce these evil results: sexual immorality, impure thoughts, eagerness for lustful pleasure, idolatry, participation in demonic activities, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, divisions, the feeling that everyone is wrong except those in your own little group, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other kinds of sin. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

But when the Holy Spirit controls our lives, he will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Here there is no conflict with the law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have nailed the passions and desires of their sinful nature to his cross and crucified them there. If we are living now by the Holy Spirit, let us follow the Holy Spirit's leading in every part of our lives. Let us not become conceited, or irritate one another, or be jealous of one another. Galatians 5:19-26

Declaration of Freedom:

I, _____________________________________________________________ , declare
by faith that by the power of the Blood of Jesus Christ, The Word of God, and His Holy Spirit, I have been forgiven and strengthened and can now walk in freedom. I will not let resentments and bitterness destroy what the Lord wants to do in my life. I choose to forgive those who have hurt me that I may also walk in forgiveness.

Signed_________________________________________ Date ________________

I will be accountable to ________________________________ in this area.

(Note: An accountability partner MUST be of the same gender.)

Forgiveness and Freedom

Why Should I Forgive?

Think of forgiveness as a gift that you give to yourself. It is not something you do for the person who hurt you. It is a gift to yourself because it enables you to stop feeling painful feelings and pushing others away. Forgiveness frees you from anger and allows you to restore your ability to have close and satisfying relationships with others.

Anger is a poisonous emotion that comes from being hurt. When you are consumed with anger and bitterness, it hurts you at least as much as it hurts the person who has harmed you. It is as if you are filled with poison. If these feelings are not resolved, they can begin to eat you up inside.

You have two choices: to stay connected to the person who hurt you by keeping these poisonous feelings alive, or to let the feelings go and forgive the person who harmed you. When you withhold forgiveness, think about who is actually being hurt. It is more than likely that the person who is filled with anger and anxiety is you, not the other person.

What Forgiveness is Not:

§ Forgiving another does not mean you will never again feel the pain or remember the thing that hurt you. The hurtful experience will be in your memory forever. By forgiving, you are not pretending the hurtful behavior never happened. It did happen. The important thing is to learn from it while letting go of the painful feelings.

§ Forgiveness is not about right or wrong. It doesn’t mean that the person’s behavior was okay. You are not excusing their behavior or giving permission for the behavior to be repeated or continued.

§ When you forgive another, it does not mean you wish to continue your relationship with them. This is a separate decision. You can forgive a person and live your life apart from them.

Forgiveness can only take place because the Lord has given us the ability to make choices. This ability is a gift that we can use it whenever we wish. We have the choice to forgive or not to forgive. No other person can force us to do either.

How to Find Freedom:

1. Identify areas of bitterness and resentment in your life.
God says in Jeremiah 6:14, “You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there!”

2. Admit or “own” the problems.

We have to admit that we have been defeated by an internal force that has brought nothing but pain and degradation to our lives; then, we have to admit we need help in dealing with that force.

3. Ask for and accept the Lord’s help in dealing with your feelings.

We must completely accept the fact that we cannot remove our own shortcomings, and we must become willing for God to remove them for us. To be entirely ready is to reach a spiritual state where we are not just aware of our defects; not just tired of them; not just confident that the Lord will remove what should go – but all these things together.

4. Join with others for support and accountability.

Join a small group for support and form an accountability relationship with someone of the same gender.There are many christian recovery groups out there, possibly through your church, that can help you deal and heal in a safe healthy God centered environment.